After announcing the pregnancy, I've gotten in contact with a bunch of folks who I've not talked to in way too long. Many of these folks are sorority sisters from college. While we talk occasionally (weddings, birthdays, showers, etc.) the close personal relationships with many of these gals has been lost over the years.
One response I received to my announcement (from a non-sorority sister) was "Wow! I'm so jealous- we've been trying over a year." Uh, yeah- I read that you were diagnosed with PCOS and offered some insight and support....but didn't feel it necessary to share the intimate details of my business. After I explained our story, she told me she thought she was knocked up (got TWO positive pregnancy tests but was concerned they were false positives). My "nesting days" came out, and I schooled her....nicely, of course.
I know that Mark and I didn't try as long as MANY people, and we didn't have to endure what MANY go through. I know we got lucky with our first IUI, and I know we're blessed. I often forget, however, that lots of folks trying to conceive don't have an understanding of the journey it takes many. I guess, to some extent, that I'm fortunate to have stumbled upon the Nest's "Trouble Trying to Conceive" board before finding my home at Getting Pregnant. While it scared the crap out of me, it made me realize that I'm not as bad off as many of the women out there. In essence, reading about the struggles of others provided me a bit of sensitivity and understanding. A year after first reading the T-TTC board, I re-visited it to learn about IUI. While I never thought *I* would be posting on that board, I knew I wasn't struggling as much as some.
I'm rambling now, but all of this to say- I realize I'm blessed.
Many other friends have reached out to me with their stories of infertility. Five of my college friends- girls in my sorority- are struggling with infertility. Each of them has a different story, and our mutual experiences and struggles have brought us closer together. While infertility stinks, getting close to friends again is something to appreciate.
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3 comments:
I'm happy and excited for you!
I am so excited for you!!!! Isn't it unbelievable how many people open up and tell you they are struggling too when you have no idea. That is what has amazed me the most in this whole journey.
I'm glad you are doing so well!!!
Glad to hear that you've reconnected with some old friends. I feel similarly that we are very blessed that we got pg with IUI rather easily. Although we lost our first baby, we got pg on the 2nd try after our loss again. I feel blessed that my doctor figured out how to get us pg.
I also found that once we got pg a lot of my friends opened up and talked about their battles with infertility and miscarriage, I made some pretty strong connections with old friends that I hadn't talked to in a long time.
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